18 weeks ago my life’s partner said she wanted out. Shocked, stunned,
and confused my world crumbled! Now to be fair she did not just drop this on me
out of the blue. For many years I was cold and distant to her in an effort to
get her to share the financial information with me. I have always worried about
saving money for the kids and retirement. She has always fought me on it. I
tried many ways to get her to let me in but all failed so I devised a plan to
shut her emotionally like she shut me out financially. Well it BACKFIRED big
time!
Now she says she loves me but not like a
wife should love her husband. She has bought a house and will be moving out
soon. She asked that I work with her on filing for DIS. I have done all these
things with as little resistance as I could manage because fighting for her to
STAY against her will will only make her more determined to go. Showing her
unconditional love will give her more reason to stay than to go. And that is
what I am doing, giving her unconditional love.
UL is when YOU give the robber your watch when he demands your wallet.
UL is when YOU carry the soldiers pack 2
miles instead of 1.
UL is when YOU give a stranger who asks
for your shirt your jacket as well.
UL is when YOU offer the right cheek after
the left has been slapped.
UL is when YOU help her pack the kids
stuff when SHE wants to leave you.
UL is when YOU look at homes for sale she
wants to buy to leave with her.
UL is when YOU help her bring home
furniture for HER new home so she does not have to hire movers.
UL is when YOU don’t fight her WHEN she
asks for a divorce.
UL is when YOU don’t make the divorce a
battleground that all that enter get wounded in.
UL is when YOU rub her feet and legs every
night so she can relax knowing she is leaving you anyway.
UL is when YOU decide to let HER go and
make a vow to be there when she comes back.
UL is when YOU tell her that YOU love her
no matter where she goes or what she does.
UL is when YOU vow to never seek another
lover as long as she lives and prepare for a long, lonely life,
UL is when YOU make sure that the home she
is moving to is comfortable for her and the kids.
UL is when YOU do ALL these things KNOWING
that she IS leaving no matter what.
UL is when YOU make a promise to GOD that
YOU will wait for his plan to unfold without losing faith.
UL is when YOU make a pledge to not harbor
anger, bitterness, resent, pain, and distrust towards her.
UL is when YOU give your word that you
WILL take her back WHEN she comes back.
UL is when YOU let her go to GOD and let
HIM deal with her heart, mind, and spirit.
UL is when YOU pray that she find peace
and joy in the Lord no matter what road she takes.
UL is when YOU speak daily words of love
to her KNOWING that they will not be returned.
UL is when YOU assure her that you love
HER for who she is but that you HATE what she is doing.
UL is when YOU cherish each second with
her knowing that someday soon she will be gone.
UL is when YOU choose to NEVER let anger
loose when SHE seeks to destroy all YOU have built.
UL is when YOU remember that she is the
same person you fell in love with years ago.
UL is when YOU make the choice to be like
Jesus to her when she treats YOU like the devil.
UL is when YOU purpose to give her freedom
from you in her vain attempt to find her freedom.
UL is when YOU keep your mouth closed when
you want to scream words of pain and anger at her.
UL is when YOU push self down and lift her
up to GOD's throne asking for him to forgive her.
UL is when YOU purge all anger from your
heart and let the love of Christ flow freely from your heart.
UL is when YOU trust GOD's plan to save or
recreate your marriage no matter how dark the road is.
UL is when YOU die to self and live for
your family not matter what the cost to YOU!
Now is the time of Job!
All is taken from you.
The dogs of anguish rend your soul.
The worms of rage scar your heart.
The snakes of doubt poison your mind.
The lion of fear feasts on your flesh.
I know, I am there now!
BUT thru it all there is ONE thing that is constant!
One thing that will NEVER change!
One truth that cannot be overlooked!
That is GOD and JESUS HATE divorce....period!
And if YOU are praying to GOD thru JESUS to protect or restore your marriage with faith and patience IT WILL BE DONE! Period, end of story, good bye!
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