Perhaps I am going about this the wrong way. Lets put this in perspective. 96 days ago my wife of 22 years KNEW without a doubt that I was going to leave her in the future. When? She did not know BUT she knew I was going as soon as I could. She also KNEW beyond a shadow of a doubt that I DID NOT LOVE HER! She knew these things because I WANTED her to think to scare her into letting me in on the finances. My plan backfired in a very bad way. So what has happened in 95 days? She has not moved out. We sleep in the same bed. She does not hide her nakedness from me. She lets me massager her everywhere (except very private areas). We speak everyday. We go out together alone and with the kids. We hold hands. She went to 6 weeks of counseling with me in the effort to work it out. She is going to move out WHEN she finds a house close to me so that the kids can stay in their school. She asked that I help her find a house to move into. She has let me know that we will date each other when she moves out. She asked for a dusalutionment instead of a court ordered divorce. She is not seeing anyone. She wants to start as friends and see how she feels after some time passes. She says she loves me but not like a wife should lover her husband. She wants us to STAY friends no matter what she decides to do. She promised to never keep the kids from me. She admits that her heart says stay but her mind says she must go. She says she must go so that she can come back on her own. She tells me I am a good man. She tells me she finds me attractive. She tells me I am handsome. She does not complain when I take the kids to Church. She is polite and considerate of everything I do and tells me so. The things she is doing don’t point to a woman that wants to leave her husband. As one person put it, she is not fighting me, she is fighting God and her heart. That is a battle that a woman will lose everytime. So all I have to do is keep treating her like Jesus would with unconditional love no matter what she does and wait for God to bring her to where he wants her to be. Once that happens we can work it our and make our life together again. With a stronger, deeper, richer love for each other than we have ever had! Lord, please give me the strength to remain true and strong as you work your will out in her life. Give me direction and wisdom in every action I take from this point on. Please stop me from getting in the way and slowing your will down. But most of all Lord, please, if possible, don’t let her move out. Let US move out together to a new home in a quite place where we can raise our kids and live out our lives with your blessing, loving each other as you love us! Amen